One Day Longer
As of today, Emmy has been with us longer than she was without us.
I don't why that feels so important. It's just one more day of being a family. And even from the beginning she "fit" us. Of course now when she does something silly or something cantankerous, we can say "Oh that's just like Dave" or "that's just like Lisa". In the beginning her personality was made up of her experiences in China along with the part that was inherited. But now we've seeped in to her facial expressions, her likes and dislikes, her present and future.
I like knowing that in her short life, from this day on, the majority of it has been with us. I think that one of the hardest parts of adoption has to be accepting that we weren't always her parents. Don't get me wrong, I know that everything happened in the perfect timing. But once we saw her picture, it was pure torture knowing that someone else was caring for her, seeing her smile, influencing her daily life. Of course those people were the ones that shaped who she was and will continue to be a part of her fabric, past, present and future. So our challenge (and I consider it an honor) is to always remember that even though our number of days as a family will now outweigh her family of before, they are always with us. I think it will be fun to see her become more like Dave and I but have a little something "extra" peeking out from behind the familiar.
posted by Lisa & Dave | 5:44 PM
6 Comments:
Lisa as I said to you this weekend, it has seemed as though Emmy has been gracing us with her presence for more than a year. As I wathced Emmy this weekend it hit me, last year we were looking at her picture and anticipating her arival. The next thing you know it will be time for Preschool, Middle School, High School, Graduation, Collage and the most scarrest of all getting married. Then we all think back to the day of holding the picture and waiting for her to enter or lives and changing each and every one of us for ever. Thanks Lisa, Dave and most of all Emmy
Well said, Lisa! Emmy is, and will continue to be, her own unique person. Her beginnings in China and her forever family make her the special angel that God meant her to be.
Sam
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It's hard to believe it's only been a year since she has been a part of our lives. She has made such a lasting impression in our hearts and soul. I remember the little girl who got off the plane. She let everyone hold her but she felt more like holding a doll, she was so still and didn't reach out to touch anyone (of course she was probably wondering what in the world was going on and what are these people saying :) Now she is so well adjusted and yes you can definitely see your traits in her but mostly, she is such a happy little girl. It's so special to see her face light up without being encouraged, it's coming from within. I know how blessed you both feel having her in your life but we too are blessed. So thanks Dave and Lisa for sharing your little baby girl and Thanks Emmy for being who you are!
Love, Ta Ta and Ralph
Lisa, What a GREAT post! You're making me all teary!
And I ditto all that, just couldn't have said it as well.
Hugs!!
Laurie
Gary and I understand exactly how both of you feel. Only another adoptive family can fully understand the sadness and joy that is experienced at every event in your child's life. I would like to say with time you feel the sadness less but that has yet to happen for us. We have never regretted our decision to adopt. Our child has been a joy, our happiness, our angel girl. We will forever spend our lives making sure she knows love, happiness and support which she did not receive in the beginning of her life.
Emmy will continue to bring challenge to every adventure in your lives. I am very glad that Emmy has joined the Potter Family. I wish there was more hours in the day for her and Brittany to be together. They share a special beginning that only they will grow to understand. Brittany talks about Emmy all the time. In fact, Brittany made a pet rock (painted, glued eyes on and taped to a piece of cardboard) at daycare and named it Emmy. I aksed why she named it Emmy. She said because Emmy is her cousin and she loves her.
Enjoy every minute they are so fleeting. Love, Pam, Gary and Brittany
When I get upset or stressed, I think of Emmy and what you and Dave were anticipating a year ago. You know how fast this past year has come and gone. The journey from here to high school and college will go much faster. I look forward to seeing this experience unfold as magnificently as it began.
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